Most couples don’t make the decision easily to end their marriage. In fact, people often stay in a marriage long after it’s stopped being a healthy, happy relationship. All couples have problems. However, which ones are signs that you shouldn’t ignore?
We’re going to discuss of few of those here. We’re not saying that if you’re experiencing any of these things, you should call a divorce attorney. However, you should likely seek a good therapist. It’s best when couples can participate in therapy together. However, if your spouse won’t do that, some individual counseling can give you tools to deal with a difficult relationship and some clarity on whether it’s best to stay or leave.
You stop talking about an issue. One or both of you refuse to continue to discuss a matter on which you disagree.
You no longer discuss major life decisions with one another. For example, if you learn that your spouse has been considering a job that would require you to move to another city (particularly if they’ve told other people), that’s not a good sign.
You avoid each other. That’s easier to do now than ever. You can be in the same room with each other and both be immersed on your phones. Many relatively happy couples do that. However, if you find yourself intentionally arranging your schedule so that you don’t have to spend time with your spouse (or they seem to be doing that), you have to ask yourself why that is.
Every conversation escalates into an argument. While silence and evasion are unhealthy, so is constant fighting. Some things are worth arguing about. However, if you find yourselves yelling over relatively minor things, like someone failing to put gas in the car, that can signal a larger problem.
There are significant behavioral changes. Sometimes when couples aren’t communicating in a healthy manner about their issues, their unhappiness manifests through changes in their behavior. Have you or your spouse changed one or more of your longtime behaviors? If so, do you understand why?
If you decide that ending the marriage is the best solution for you and your family, it’s essential to seek legal guidance as soon as possible. An experienced Tennessee family law attorney can help determine what you’re seeking in the divorce and work to help you achieve your goals.